a real story copied from quora I am a widow with two kids. Let me explain this with my life story. Yes, It is being misused against men. And I can clearly say who is responsible for it. Its the western feminism concept that has been propagated in India through news, Bollywood and the radical feminists of India including the women commissions. There was a time I used to be proud of feminism and the concept of feminism. But the same B**ch ruined my life and family. Now I realise that I had a beautiful chance to settle down with my lovely family. I had a most caring husband and in-laws. But the way feminism concept had brainwashed my brain, it led to destruction of my own family. I don’t want to be fake anymore so let me tell you all that, I misused the law that was built to safeguard me and my gender. I am not alone, there are many who got influenced and are repenting their life after filing false case. There was only one instance when I had fight with my husband and the actual reason behind that was - 1. My husband and his family were rich and simple. They wanted to help a poor family with educated girl. 2. He tied the knot with this concept only that he prefers educated girl over money. And he was confident that his jolly and kind nature can take care of rest everything. 3. Six months after i had my second child, I started taunting him for taking his parents out of our home because I wanted to leave in a peaceful environment and not in a mob. 4. I still remember the smile on his face and with those smiles he used to tackle all the pressure I gave on his brain. 5. My in laws were here to help me with kids. They already had their house. They used to stay 1000KM from our current rented house. It was just after my FILs retirement that they thought to help us with our kids and everything. 6. One day my husband came home and he had some short of office tension going on. 7. I started playing my tantrum and scolded him that you take out these dirty piece of shit( my respected in laws) or else I am leaving. 8. Till now he had never reacted to my any words. But that day he did. He didn’t smile but put a tight slap on my face and said - Did I ever in my life disrespected your parents or asked them to leave or referred them as piece of shit? Respect for elders, be it your family or mine is something I will not compromise on anymore. 9. That was the instance that fired my feminist ego that was already built up in my brain with all the nuisance that I was watching on TV and internet. I threw my slipper on his face that hit his eyes. 10. I left with my kids and went to my mothers place. 11. I did put all the spices to my story at my home. My sister in law said - you did right. Its hell to live with such family. Divorce him and stay with us. On seeing the support of my parents and even SIL I immediately went with them and filed an FIR. The complained included - Dowry torture, Domestic violence, molestation by FIL and pressurising me to have more kids. There were few more complaints that I put based on something I had read in various feminists articles to control husband and his family. My husband and FIL got arrested immediately. I got confidence and felt like I am the most powerful lady of this planet. I got my kids admission in school at my mothers place. I don’t know why those anger and fire was building in me. My sister in law and even my mother participated in happy talks of how much money should we demand as alimony. After 3 years of long court journey and multiple time of my husbands and ILs attempt to bring me back I finally got divorced. My husband had to pay Rs60,000 every month as alimony. My kids would be allowed to meet their father and Grand parents twice a month. 6 months after my divorce, I heard that my husband was on depression medication. but who cares. I was living the most happy family life now with my brother, SIL and caring parents. One day on my daughters birthday my husband along with FIL were coming to meet her. My daughter was very excited to see the toy her grandfather had promised on her birthday. And then, I got a phone call, that both of them got run over by truck and spot death. I don’t know why, but that day the feminism and empowerment and overpowered cloud over my brain cleared. I realised, what did I do? I went to attend their last rites. I heard people saying that “such an honest man he was. The only thing he wanted was to live a happy family life. God does good with such people as the truck tyre immediately crushed their head and it was a death without pain. etc etc” I had never predicted the consequences of my silly steps over a slap and that too I begged for that slap. This is not the ending. Things started backfiring on me 1 month after that incident- 1. After seeing her son and husband die, my MIL threw out every peace of deity statues and pictures from home. She stopped believing in God. Her kind heart turned sour. The smiling face got dull. She barely speaks. Since all the property was in her name. She immediately donated every single piece of property to “Anathashram”. 2. After seeing no money coming, my SIL started taunting me - “ You are a witch and you ate your husband” 3. Me and my kids started seeing discrimination in my own mothers home. 4. after six month, I started getting mental tortures in that home. One day my brother slapped me because I tried suggesting something on a fight between him and SIL. 5. The self respect and the respect was lost. My kids were burden to them. 6. I moved to another city and got a pvt school teacher job with Rs 8k salary. I manage everything in that salary. 7. I tried getting in relationship to get support for my kids and mental support for myself, but it was just sex. 8. I tried contacting women commission for some monitory help or some increased salary job. After multiple visits, I came to know that - the women commission just boasts about women empowerment. They treat you like shit and trash in real life. Today is the ninth anniversary of my marriage. And I thought to reveal this fact to every married women. I am still struggling to feed myself and my kids. Its not the money that feeds you and your family. Its the bond, the kindness, the acceptance. If you at any point feel like - 1. “ why should we leave our parents home after marriage?” do not marry. You will end up ruining your life along with multiple lives. 2. If at any time you feel that your husband and in laws makes you laugh with some jokes or acting - pour out your love to them and never bring a single thought to hurt them. 3. Do not judge your Man or any man based on what you hear on TV, media or internet. They are beautiful creatures. 4. There is some energy for sure who guides your Karma. If you think that you can get away with your karma then think twice or n number of times because she never forgets your address. 5. My kids are deprived of fathers love, grand parents love. It was just because of some fake ego thing and my greed to control people. 6. Do not get jealous of your husbands property or your in-laws success and achievement because every happiness and sadness of your husband and in-laws is yours. If he doesn’t boast about his life achievements then you are lucky. If he does boasts then you are more lucky because you have a new thing to learn or a new story to hear and have conversation with them, after all you have someone who pours his heart out in front of you. 7. Its the men who helped us build the law against them just for the sake of our security and our empowerment. DO NOT misuse it. Its time to understand our responsibility and take our responsibility like they do. Its a fact that - a Man never boasts about his responsibility but a women does. Do your duty like they do theirs and do things with love rather feeling that its something we are forced to do. Respect your men, respect your in-laws and respect the power we have been given with. Its very easy to misuse the power and we will be provoked to do so, we will crave to do so, but that is the sweet poison we would consume ourselves.

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